There are a lot of wedding superstitions out there, both good and bad, but trying to keep up with them will only add to your wedding stress. Our advice? Forget about them! This list has all the silly superstitions that are totally okay to ignore—or to put your own twist on.
1. You can’t see each other before the wedding.
The Superstition: Back in the day, brides and grooms weren’t supposed to see each other until the last minute, so the groom didn’t have the chance to change his mind. (We know—crazy, right?) This custom gradually morphed into the general idea that it was bad luck for a groom to see his bride on their wedding day.
Our Take: Today, some couples stick to tradition because they like the excitement and anticipation of seeing each other for the first time at the ceremony. But we say, do what makes you most comfortable. We know lots of couples who’ve bucked tradition and stayed in the same room the night before, had breakfast together the morning of, and (most conveniently) scheduled their photo sessions together with their photographer before the ceremony. Nothing beats an emotional first look photo.
2. Steer clear of yellow roses (or you’ll be green with envy).
The Superstition: During the Victorian era, The Language of Flowers—a book that assigned flowers different words and meanings—was popularized all over Europe. According to the volume, tulips stand for love and passion and stephanotis means marital happiness. On the flip side, yellow roses were said to symbolize jealousy.
Our Take: If you love a flower, give it your own special meaning, especially if it has some significance to you, and don’t worry a bit about what those Victorians would’ve said. Trust us—we’ve seen some seriously gorgeous yellow floral arrangements.
3. You’re doomed if you drop the ring.
The Superstition: Get ready for this dramatic idea: As tradition goes, if someone dropped the ring during the ceremony, it meant that person would die.
Our Take: Obviously that’s just nonsense. But it does lead to another a good point—if you have a ring bearer handling your rings (especially one who’s very young), make sure those bands are tied tightly enough, and that you hand the ring pillow off to him at the last minute, just before he walks down the aisle. No one will be doomed if the rings fall, but you definitely don’t want to lose them.
4. Don’t get married on a Saturday, in May, or on the 13th of the month.
The Superstition: This actually refers to several superstitions. According to English folklore, Saturday is the unluckiest day of the week to marry, while Wednesday is supposed to be the best. The fear of marrying in May actually dates back to the Romans, who held their festival for the dead in May; there’s even a nursery rhyme that reads, “Marry in the month of May, and you’ll surely rue the day.” And finally, there’s the infamous unlucky number 13.
Our Take: Attempt to book your dream venue while following those calendar-related myths and you’ll immediately understand why you should ignore them. Unless your family tradition dictates that you find a lucky or auspicious wedding date, choose any beautiful wedding day that works for you, and don’t look back.